If we rewind back to the beginning of March 2020 everything seemed “normal.” With a shopping list in hand, going to the grocery store was easy. Toilet paper was stocked, college was in session, crowds were common, and we didn’t have to stop ourselves when going in for a hug. A lot can change in one day. The changes that have come with COVID-19 (Coronavirus) were unexpected. At a moment’s notice, we had to adapt to a “new normal.”
Change is a normal part of life, but why is it that navigating change, especially when it wasn’t our choice, so difficult?
If you’re facing unexpected changes in the midst of this COVID19 pandemic like an unexpected or unplanned pregnancy, please reach out to CAPS. No virtual meetings are required – come see us in person. Many of our staff have been just where you are with a pregnancy, and will listen with compassion, not judgment. Be comforted that your feelings are 100% normal and that you’re not alone.
Unexpected Change – Effects & Solutions
With the difficult effects that sometimes come with sudden change, there are always positive solutions and options, support, and help available.
Change can be stressful, whether expected or unexpected.
- Exercise – In this time when many of our routines have been placed on hold, it’s essential to implement some sense of “normalcy.” If possible, make it a priority to get outside once a day. Our bodies need fresh air, and our mental health benefits from it too. When we exercise, endorphins are released; a chemical that reduces pain, and simulates a sense of overall well-being.
- Smile – Smiling makes us feel good because smiling releases feel-good neurotransmitters, specifically endorphins, serotonin, and dopamine directly combating stress. What makes you smile? If you’re at a loss as to what that is, put on your favorite movie, look on YouTube for a comedy, listen to an upbeat favorite song, or write a list of things that make you laugh or smile. Remember, smiles are contagious. When feeling stressed or depressed it can be hard to smile, but one smile can brighten yours, and someone else’s day.
- Get Connected – Although natural, our own emotional and physical responses to change can be difficult to manage alone. Nicole McGlashen, CAPS Patient Care Specialist Trainer shares, “Seeking out connection with others such as friends, family members, a support group, and or a counselor can help lighten the load. A conversation may not change the details of our current circumstances, but they can shift our perspective.”
Spending the majority of time at home, unable to go about our normal routine or see the people, we love can be lonely. We were made for relationships, and a sense of community is important to our emotional and mental health.
If you are struggling and not feeling like yourself as of late, please know that you are normal and not alone. You may not be able to go see a friend in person, but you can dial their number, send a text, zoom, or video chat. These days, we have to be creative and even a little courageous to stay afloat. If you’re feeling isolated, please tell someone.
Sense of Loss
With change, whether good or bad, there is a loss of “the way things used to be.” If your best friend moves to another state to pursue her lifelong dream, you’re rooting for her, yet simultaneously mourning the fact that things aren’t going to be the same.
At the moment, it is very clear that things aren’t the way they used to be. The changes brought on by the Coronavirus are affecting our nation and world. We all have stories as to how our sense of “normalcy” has been impacted, and the things we’ve had to leave behind. Maybe it was the loss of a job, the loss of seeing friends and family, a trip that was planned, or a concert that you were looking forward to. The loss of a hug. Maybe even the loss of a loved one.
Moving from one stage of life to the next involves change. If you find out you’re pregnant and it wasn’t planned, your previous vision for your life may now seem unattainable, creating a sense of loss and lack of direction. At CAPS, we know this form of loss is overwhelming and we are here to provide a listening ear, a compassionate heart, practical resources and preliminary medical care to help navigate your unforeseen season of life. You are not alone.
There are a lot of unknowns at the moment, and when the future seems uncertain, it’s easy to worry. Many fears stem from what we don’t know.
How do I know if I’m pregnant? What if I am pregnant? What if I had unprotected sex?
If you’re anxious because you think that you’re pregnant, or may have contracted an STD or STI, or have had unprotected sex, a simple test will provide an answer and bring you one step closer to resolving this worry. We understand it requires courage. We will be by your side to encourage you and provide reliable medical information along the way. And, your privacy matters, so your situation will be kept confidential by us.
Reach Out – We are here for you!
While change isn’t always our choice, our choice today can change the future.
An unexpected or unplanned pregnancy may feel frightening, but we are here to support you through every stage of your pregnancy journey. We want you to know all your options and feel confident and fully supported. As pregnancy options and resource providers / networkers, we will walk with you to places of safety, health, and wholeness so that you feel empowered in each step of your decision-making process.
During this time especially, we recognize that finances may be tight. At CAPS, Pregnancy tests, ultrasounds, and consultation are always Free of charge; and STD/STI tests are offered at little to no cost. You can rest assured that your privacy is of utmost importance to us at CAPS.