So often, guys are left out of, or are not involved in the unplanned pregnancy conversation. While she may be the one who is pregnant, you are both a part of this possible pregnancy. Often, the first question is “How do I know if I’m pregnant?”


Confirm if she is actually pregnant. About 20-25% of early pregnancies end in miscarriage, so no action may be needed. Before going any further, find out for sure if it is a viable pregnancy. At CAPS, we can help. We offer private, Free pregnancy testing and ultrasound, with no strings attached.


It’s common to be in shock when you initially find out a baby is on the way, and as a guy, you may want to take immediate action. However, an immediate sudden reaction is not necessarily the best thing to do. One thing that men regret the most with a possible unplanned pregnancy, is not taking the time to process, get information, and seek accurate medical facts. Try not to make a decision while in this emotional state. Give yourself some breathing room, to get the facts and understand your options.

There are many options. Help is available.


Communication can feel risky. We don’t want to feel misunderstood, unsupported, or judged, so at times we do not say anything.

Talk with your partner

It may seem like her decision to make, but you have a voice as well, and your opinion matters more than you may think. A good goal is to make an informed decision together, that is safe for her, and wise for both of you. There is no need for either of you to be alone in a possible unplanned pregnancy situation.

One man said this: “I regret not having voiced a strong opinion at the time D decided. I neither consented nor objected, just passively attended. It seemed like her decision to make. In fact, all I did was pay…and, if by some miracle you ever read this, I wish we would have talked more before going ahead. And I’m so very ashamed of the lack of support I offered at the time.”

Another guy advised: “Whether you’ve already experienced this or if you’re weighing options, the best advice I can give you is to be as open and communicative as possible, don’t push or pry your partner and make sure your actions/words come from the heart.”

Get all the facts – Talk with a CAPS pregnancy healthcare provider

Making an appointment at CAPS gives you the time and opportunity to be listened to, and to get your questions answered about pregnancy options (abortion pros, cons, risks, methods, and other information).

No matter what choice you make, CAPS will be there for you before, during, and after the pregnancy.

We will help you examine the full range of options (abortion, parenting, adoption) including the variables for each option, so you can make the best choice for your situation.

All pregnancy services are FREE, including FREE pregnancy test, FREE ultrasound, and FREE pregnancy and abortion education.

Other Services – We also provide low to no cost STI / STD testing.

All our services to you are private – your privacy is important to us.

To get help, contact us at any of the San Diego area clinic locations, call us at 619-337-8080, or schedule an appointment.