So often, guys are left out of, or are not involved in the unplanned pregnancy conversation. While she may be the one who is pregnant, you are both a part of this possible pregnancy. Often, the first question is “How do I know if I’m pregnant?”
Confirm if she is actually pregnant. About 20-25% of early pregnancies end in miscarriage, so no action may be needed. Before going any further, find out for sure if it is a viable pregnancy. At CAPS, we can help. We offer free pregnancy testing and ultrasound, with no strings attached.
TAKE TIME TO PROCESS
It’s common to be in shock when you initially find out a baby is on the way, and as a guy, you may want to take immediate action. However, an immediate sudden reaction is not necessarily the best thing to do. One thing that men regret the most with a possible unplanned pregnancy, is not taking the time to process, get information, and seek wise counsel. Try not to make a decision while in this emotional state. Give yourself some breathing room, to get the facts and understand your options.
There are many options. Help is available.
HAVE A CONVERSATION
Communication can feel risky. We don’t want to feel misunderstood, unsupported, or judged, so at times we do not say anything.
Talk with your partner
It may seem like her decision to make, but you have a voice as well, and your opinion matters more than you may think. A good goal is to make an informed decision together, that is safe for her, and wise for both of you. There is no need for either of you to be alone in a possible unplanned pregnancy situation.
One man said this: “I regret not having voiced a strong opinion at the time D decided. I neither consented nor objected, just passively attended. It seemed like her decision to make. In fact, all I did was pay…and, if by some miracle you ever read this, I wish we would have talked more before going ahead. And I’m so very ashamed of the lack of support I offered at the time.”
Another guy advised: “Whether you’ve already experienced this or if you’re weighing options, the best advice I can give you is to be as open and communicative as possible, don’t push or pry your partner and make sure your actions/words come from the heart.”
Get all the facts – Talk with a CAPS pregnancy healthcare provider
Making an appointment at CAPS gives you the time and opportunity to be listened to, and to get your questions answered about with pregnancy options (abortion pros, cons, risks, methods, and other information).
CAPS provides free unplanned pregnancy help and education for men and women, and free pregnancy testing and ultrasound. Use our quick online form or call us at 619-337-8080 to schedule an appointment, at any of our 4 clinic locations.